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Have you ever heard the term, emotional meltdown? It’s been a really different year this past one and our kids’ emotional needs have often been left craving a bit of TLC owing to them being off school, away from their friends, unable to celebrate birthdays and occasions the way they are used to. Whilst things are finally looking up alhamdullilah, here at MMM we want to ensure that you have the tools to give our kids their ‘emotional fix’ each day and so in tonight’s post we wanted to bring to you five ways to give your children a chance to release those emotions throughout the day. Some of these ideas are concepts learnt from the Hand in Hand parenting course – which we have previously reviewed. For more information check out the link below.
Five Ways to Ensure That Your Kids Are Getting Their Emotional Fix Each Day
- Time to connect with you – a concept which seems simple enough right? However when we say time to connect, we mean a solid 10-15 minutes a day when your complete attention is on your child. Phones away, try not to have other siblings around and put all the distractions away from your mind too. Really focus on your child and give them that time to do whatever it is that makes them happy at that moment – play, read or even have a chat. Try to let them lead and engage with them throughout.
- Get some fresh air – stretching those legs is essential for everyone and kids are no exception. Encourage them to play and get outside whatever the weather. Getting outside and being around nature is a great way for us to re-energise and our children are no different. This is also a great way to remind them of Allah (SWT)’s bounties.
- Laughter is the best medicine – find a way to make them laugh through play. Whether it’s reading in a funny voice or play fighting, laughter really is the best medicine and is a great way to release any built up tension. It helps us feel a bit lighter and kids are no exception for this. Find a moment in the day when something makes them laugh and when you see that joy, grab it and repeat (until it gets old).
- Give them a sense of purpose each day – each morning, sit down with your child and talk about their plan for the day. Make it a routine, encourage them to have a goal (no matter what it is), something small for them to work towards. Having a sense of purpose and a plan enables kids to feel an element of control and this in turn helps them to feel safe.
- And finally, focus on the good – each day, take a minute and point out or ask your child the best part of their day. Focusing on the positives from an early age, it is a fantastic way to implement gratitude and also build their self-esteem. Each day is different and kids are little sponges, they will have mastered something new or done something better than they did yesterday – point this out and make it a topic of discussion. Ensuring gratitude and positivity are key concepts in their day from a young age is a fab way to protect their mental health for the future.
There are so many ways to help our children to be emotionally aware and build this strength within them, above are just a few aimed at releasing any built up tension, which also often comes out through a tantrum. Our bonus tip is to listen to them, especially when they are crying. Let them get it out and really give them the empathy you would give a friend if they were crying. We know it’s not easy and it happens a lot some days, but feeling heard is a great step towards your child being emotionally resilient.
What do you do to help your kids get their emotional fix each day? Let us know in the comments below.